Narcissists enjoy sadness in others, Part Two
This is a Narcissist. She’s serial killing nurse Daniela Poggiali, likely responsible for killing up to 38 patients. If a patient or their relatives annoyed her (triggered her amygdala) she killed them, to bring her amygdala triggering to an end. Sadly she is probably far more like many feminists and SJWs, from a cognitive perspective, than we will ever know.
In the first photo, she is posing with a recently deceased patient, as she gives a double thumbs-up. She captioned the photo, “Mm… Life and Death,” which in Narcissistese translates to, “Yes I am miserable, but look at how much better I have it than this person. I’m alive, and they are dead!” For a Narcissist’s perpetually miserable persona, it doesn’t get much better than that, and you can see it in the euphoric expression on her face. For a moment, the misery and torment that she underwent every waking moment was lifted.
The second shot features an Italian hand gesture, with the index finger pointed into the cheek, which signifies incredible pleasure or ecstasy, if I’m not mistaken.
Her whole life is such a misery that the sight of someone else, worse off, will trigger an ecstatic reaction. She is Hillary Clinton – bitter every waking moment, yet set to laughing and joking at any mention of the child molester she got freed. Only the utter misery of others can lift the curtains of dread over her own miserable life. Even in the last shot, on a beautiful beach on a beautiful day, her pleasure is but a fraction of that produced by standing over a dead body.
This is how different they think, and as a result, they are delighted with things which would horrify us. If you grow accustomed to thinking that you can predict other people’s thoughts and behaviors based upon your own, you are setting yourself up to be eaten alive by a character like this. They don’t think like us, and as a result you will be unable to understand them, and will never adapt.
Case in point – this guy. His wife tried to inject fecal matter into his IV, but he still can’t grasp that she wants to hurt him, because it would be so illogical. He is loyal to her, and she is dependent upon him, so why would she want to hurt him?
I wonder, what did she do to put him in the hospital in the first place?
When I see a guy who can’t grasp the nature of the evil he is dealing with, I truly feel for him. He is just too good to adapt to true evil. Sadly, he will have to hit rock bottom, before it gets better, and I am sure his narcissist will work 24/7 to make that happen.
Perhaps in her absence he will see how much nicer life is without her around, and he will come to his senses. Until then, he has a tough life ahead of him.
Narcissists are evil. They are not selfish. They do not think of themselves. So strong is their urge to hurt they will do it selflessly, and sacrifice greatly themselves, just to see others hurt. They are the face of evil, and people need to understand that they must deal with them as such.
When you point out how people, like the man who’s wife tried to inject feces into his IV, can’t seem to recognize evil in others, I think it has to do with the fact that people don’t really believe there is evil out there. And I don’t mean that in just a personal way, where they cannot believe that the person they’ve known for years or all their lives could be evil, which is not to be ignored. I think most people in this world do not believe in genuine Evil.
It reminds me of the novel The Silence of the Lambs, by Thomas Harris. What the film left out was something very important about Hannibal Lecter. When Clarise Starling is having one of her interviews with Hannibal, he asks her what reasons could she give as to why he committed his own brutal murders. She gave very clinical ideas, going into her own research into criminal psychology, but he interrupts her, saying, “No; I happened.” In both the novel and in the film, he’s impervious to psychoanalysis, because he doesn’t want to be reduced to a medical/scientific issue. They won’t say the E word.
The lack of belief in Evil makes us all vulnerable to it, because of reluctance or inability to recognize it when we see it. Worse, is when you do recognize it, what then? What will you do about it? Will you put yourself, your reputation, maybe your life on the line to stop it? What would we give in order to stop Evil?
It’s probably harder if the Evil is in someone we love.
I’ve noticed if you act happy narcissists come out of the woodwork and try to bring you down any way they can. They have no sense of humor and are backstabbers.
They certainly are. I never, ever could figure this out for years on end.
It explains a lot. It also explains why one of my parents {usually dear old
dad} would ruin my birthday every year-this went on almost every year.
I had a really good 18th birthday @ home with them, that’s about it. I guess
I had the temerity to be born on the same day as dad and being the narc
par excellance he is-he had to put me in my place @ the bottom of the hill.
He always told me “$$it rolls down hill and you’re @ the bottom”. Ain’t he
grand?
Without a doubt, his life was and always will be a living hell you cannot imagine. Rejoice in your goodness, because it is a gift he couldn’t dream of.
Thank you, kind one. You know, to think his life is
hell makes me sad, but my life is a whole lot happier
and healthier since I’ve cut both my parents out of it.
Your informative site has helped me more than I can
say and I am very glad to have found it. Thanks for
making this finally make sense.
Yeah, it is amazing how pure a form of evil they are.
Hey AC- Have you happened to notice if there is a particular area of the country famous for narcs? I live down south and there seem to be a lot here in Louisiana. I had to run to
the store and a check out guy was totally rude to me about a situation concerning my
mother, out of left field. It darn near wrecked my day. Folks in this area harrang my son
about her, too. It’s not our fault that she does what she does. She’s a narc, by the way.
A diagnosed B1-Polar narc. Any advice here? People around here want to know why we
aren’t doing this and that for her. All I know is that I’ve done way more for her than she
ever did for me when I was child-neglect sums up my childhood. What do I do with
these situations? It’s always when I am nice and happy and I never poke into other
people’s business.
I haven’t noticed geographic associations, but I haven’t made an effort to look, so they could certainly be there.
My general advice is to avoid confrontation, for a couple of reasons. One, if people are nice, it avoids burning bridges you won’t want to burn. Two, I’ve found Narcs love screwing you over, and then trying to parry the anger you have, by avoiding it, such as by feigning ignorance, pretending to be preoccupied, making the slight look like an accident, etc. Then if you attack in response, they play the victim, and try to make you look unbalanced for being bothered by them screwing you. It is very infuriating, so I have come to realize it is the perfect way to deal with them, because while it infuriates us, it traumatizes them.
If a Narc attacks you for not taking care of your mom, have an excuse ready, preferably one which makes the Narc look like an ass for haranguing you, but if not, one which easily explains whatever, in the same way a Narc would. Mom is sick in bed, and you didn’t stop by? You had to work extra hours to pay for your family’s house to you don’t get evicted, because you have money troubles lately. Mom has debts you haven’t paid for her? Most of what she owes, are debts to you! (make up shit she owes you money for). And so on. Make the accuser’s accusations seem unfair and hurtful to your wholly innocent self, by any means necessary, and then act as if there is something wrong with the attacker.
They key is to break away from, “God that infuriates me about them!” and head towards, “Hey, that infuriating thing is a great strategy to use on them!”
Good luck, but I can’t let you off without berating you for not moving to a place that is Narc-free. You get the fuck away from them. Chop Chop!
p.s. I’ve lived in several different parts of the country-I was born up north.
The nicest folks and most accepting were in Southern California-this was in
the 1990’s when I resided out there. Never have seen nicer folks yet. Southern
Hospitality is a myth-it’s more like Southern Hostility esp. to outsiders and I have
lived in this same town since ’77 except for college in Baton Rouge and 3 years in
California.
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