A man was charged today with killing his wife aboard a Princess Cruises ship in Alaska, according to federal court documents.
Kenneth Manzanares has been detained and faces murder charges in the death of his 39-year-old wife, who is identified by the initials K.M., according to a criminal complaint filed today in federal court by the FBI…
According to an affidavit by FBI Special Agent Michael Watson, security and medical personnel “responded to an incident” in the cabin occupied by the Manzanareses aboard the Emerald Princess on Tuesday just after 9 p.m. local time, when the ship was seven miles off the coast of Forrester Island.
She was found with a severe head wound, and blood was spattered throughout the cabin, according to the court documents. She was pronounced dead at approximately 9:20 p.m. local time, the court documents state…
An Emerald Princess security officer told investigators he noticed blood on Kenneth Manzanares’ hands and clothing at the time. According to the affidavit, the officer placed the man in handcuffs and detained him in an adjoining cabin.
The security officer told investigators that other witnesses entered the cabin earlier and also saw blood on man’s hands and clothing. According to the affidavit, one witness, identified by the initials D.H., said that he saw the woman lying on the floor covered in blood and that when he asked Kenneth Manzanares what had happened, he replied, “She would not stop laughing at me…”
The witness said he then saw Kenneth Manzanares grab the woman’s body and drag her toward the cabin’s balcony…
“Later, when Manzanares was being processed during a search by the FBI for physical evidence, he spontaneously stated, ‘My life is over,’…”
His wife, who was lovely, is laying in a bloody heap, and he has his heads in his hands saying, “My future is over!” All he can think about is himself. That is only showing because the circumstances are so extreme. Under lesser stress and with strangers, he would have masked all of that, and maintained his cover as a normal human being.
This is a guy who was teased as a kid, and that imbued him with an amygdala trigger at being laughed at. I suspect most narcissists have that trigger. It seems to combine personal insult, in a way they cannot process mentally, with the happiness of others around them, which is intensely painful for the narcissist as well. In my experience, nothing will set off a narcissist amygdala like laughing at them. Then when they rebuke you, you laugh harder at the rebuke, and it mixes in the violation of expectation, because they expect you to care.
But as I always emphasize, do not amygdala hijack unless you control the high ground of violence.
I’m sure the marriage was heading to divorce. A daughter reportedly said that she knew her father was going to do this, so his rages were apparently obvious for some time. I assume the wife had figured out this was a trigger when they argued in the past, and she rolled it out for fun during this argument.
As you discover the fun and power of the amygdala hijack, it can be very enjoyable to roll it out, especially when you are pissed off. But do not fail to grasp that you are triggering the brain structure that forces a person to do violence, and as you jack it up, it can blow and produce tragedy.
Here is the Narcissist, and the victim. Check out the narcissist grimace-smile that looks more like a fat Chihuahua with pained eyes pulling up its upper lip to bear its teeth:
My own advice would be to hold off on getting married, until you can clearly see the trouble in the above photograph.
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She looks like a genuinely happy person, he looks like an arrogant prick. She should of left him if he was throwing tantrums, where their daughter thought that he would eventually kill her. If she was with him for that long though he had probably reduced her social circle to the point where she was alone and vulnerable and couldn’t get that advice. Narcissists love isolating their victims and tormenting them. She was resisting her torment, which takes courage, but she should of left, especially for her daughter. Those are the single mothers who do need our help, the ones who are single because of fleeing abuse.
It’s hard to say whether she knew what she was doing or not. I have seen women who keep pushing verbally or even physically are able to provoke a man to the edge of physical violence and don’t seem to understand how dangerous what they are doing is (maybe narcissists torment each other?). Cf for example the “shit test”.
On the other hand there is the attraction of some women to extreme violence itself, which could be considered an r-selected trait in that it would result in a pregnancy and then a series of violent encounters which pushes her to leave. This is why a lot of domestic violence shelter victims end up returning to their abuser, as sad and ridiculous as it sounds.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gdyy0BArH74
I look at the pictures of her, and you can see in the early shots she was vibrant and happy. In the later shot of her, she looks mentally broken and physically exhausted. He did that. If she was the narc, he’d have looked like shit, and he wouldn’t have been focused on his life after he killed her.
Women can’t read men. A Narcissist’s pushy can look like a cool guy’s charisma to them and they can’t tell the difference, and before the girl knows, she is trapped with a loser. She was just too naïve.
She played with fire, for sure. Damned shame. I wonder what made her think that she could do this without paying for it. If their daughter saw it in him surely she could too.
She was inured. She had seen it so long, and it had crept up on her so slowly, that she had lost the ability to see things clearly from a sane perspective.
Tragic.
This is one major test for narcissistic personality disorder. You describe being laughed at in the younger years. If the person being laughed at takes it in good stride or suddenly realizes how funny he or the incident is, you have a type of social bonding that narcissists cannot achieve. It is almost like a social test. It really carries forward including to times when you injure yourself and everyone including you finds it funny at the moment or later. Sometimes the stories are retold years later. It is a sign of not being caught up in your narrative. Even when a woman does this to test you or because you were being ridiculous the non-NPD person will have fun with it, agree and amplify, smile, do more to get more reaction or laugh too.
The wife was probably not being a shit-testing female here. Worse she got so low that she had full realization with nothing to lose being stripped of so much dignity over years.