How to Deal With Narcissists – New Book Release

The new book, How to Deal with Narcissists has finally been finished and submitted, and is about to come out in Amazon Kindle, softcover, and hardcover within the next week or so. So another book, and another cheapo DIY cover. Ten or fifteen more books like this, and one may actually feature a passable cover. I hope readers find the cover as funny as I do – I call that handsome character “Hillary.”

Barring an Amazon screw-up, the Kindle will be free to blog readers for three days, beginning this Friday. EvoPsych will also be free on Friday, for one day. If you do download the new book for free, it is not necessary, but a quick sentence-or-two long Amazon review saying how unique this theory about NPD is, would be greatly appreciated.

To be clear, this book is not written for the regular readers of this site, and I don’t recommend anyone who is here for the political stuff buy it. You already know the underlying premise, and given your mechanistic minds, you can probably extrapolate out everything in it, so I am not sure it is even worth your time to look a free copy over (although the book will have a segment on amygdala hijacking narcissists). Even if you’ve finished dealing with your narcissist, and are still awed by the psychology, it may not be for you, as delving deeper into that abyss is not the most pleasant trip to go on.

The book is really a sort of boutique product which will hopefully be worth it’s weight in gold to anyone trapped in a Narcissistic relationship, and desperate to map out a path to freedom. That life-situation is a very strange place however, and I suspect if you haven’t been there, much of the book will seem similarly strange, exaggerated in nature, and of limited importance and utility to you. If you someday find yourself trapped with such a nutjob, however, then definitely beg, borrow, or steal a copy from somewhere. It will help.

This book’s underlying purpose is actually half an effort to help the poor loyal people who end up in relationships with narcissists through no fault of their own, and half personal vendetta against all narcissists. Since reading the study validating my long-held belief that many, if not most narcissists actually feel joy at the sight of the misery of those loyal souls who help them, and feel misery at the sight of their “loved” one’s pleasure, I have found myself increasingly splitting the world into this evil, and the good which opposes it.

I do not see much space in the middle, as I look around– I assume the neurostructural underpinnings driving this cognitive divergence, when they differentiate, drive each side to its polar opposite due to their being somehow mutually exclusive. As I split the world ever more, I see these characters on both sides, ever more – two opposing forces of good and evil, locked in a perpetual struggle to either create happiness in the world, and the people around them, or destroy it wherever they lay eyes on it, whatever the cost. The guy who “innocently” ruins the party somehow, and the noble souls who could never believe he did it purposefully, because they mistakenly think that everyone must enjoy seeing their friends happy.

The book does have a relation to politics, obviously. If you really understand NDP, it becomes obvious that what we are seeing today is a peaking of political narcissism, and it is the same battle I see above, writ large, complete with an unbelievable false reality that the narcissist demands everyone accept, under threat of an epic rage and emotional freakout.

Yes Liberals wouldn’t last two seconds in a state of nature, but in their mind, they are the “awesome people” who everyone should be grateful to, for deigning to tell us how to live, what to do, and what to think about everything. Yes, no Liberal would ever get elected if we prevented the idiots in our society from voting with IQ tests, but the Liberal position is always that of the super-intellectual – we who would easily pass the IQ tests, just aren’t smart enough to see what the idiots keep telling us. Yes, we are evil for not giving the Liberal full control over all of our lives and our beliefs, because, given their awesomeness, they deserve nothing less. Yes, the Liberal demands to be told only what makes Liberals feel good, but it is we who are evil for acknowledging any reality they don’t like, and making them feel bad. And, of course, yes the Liberal just ruined everything for everyone, betrayed our people, destroyed our great nation, and collapsed our global economy, but it was wholly accidental – they have no idea how devastating their policies are – they are just confused and mistaken. We should never hold them personally responsible for this awful accident, because they are our loyal countrymen.

Liberals and Narcissists are the exact same animal. Nothing enrages each like the sight of someone enjoying success and happiness. They will never have the balls to lash out at you openly to your face. And after they wreck everything, they’ll claim it was an accident, and they are still loyal to you. Everything which is happening to our nation – I’ve seen it play out myself, at the level of the individual personal relationship, and there is absolutely no difference. It is uncanny. Both levels even have a burning instinctual drive to control the perceptions of everyone around them, by demanding to be the central hubs of information which inform everyone, be it the narcissist who demands to know everything so they can tell others first, or the Liberal media deciding what the people need to know – and what they don’t.

To that end, where The Evolutionary Psychology Behind Politics is ammunition for the non-narcissists in our political battles at the national level, it is my hope that this new work will serve the individual foot soldiers, locked in this battle at the individual level, in families and personal relationships. Together, perhaps both works can work together to deliver some sort of selective pressure blow to this awful, noxious evil which afflicts our great human race, and which is so bent on the eradication of any chance for any individual to step up and pursue happiness themselves.

I’ll post a link here when it goes free. Comment moderation should return over the next few days, and posting will follow.

Below is what Amazon will have on its site about the book:

A comprehensive guide to dealing with the narcissistic personality, How to Deal with Narcissists offers valuable insight into how narcissists are formed, what effects these developmental experiences have on the narcissist’s brain, and how this information can be put to practical use in dealing with narcissists.

It begins with a fascinating case study of one narcissist, and the childhood experiences which conditioned his brain to exhibit the narcissistic personality. It examines how these events altered the functioning of a specific brain structure designed to process and manage stress responses, and how the altered functioning produced by these events went on to alter his behavior into adulthood. It also examines how these precipitating events inculcated a hostile worldview common to the narcissist.

The work goes on to examine how this altered brain function produces the forces which are behind every aberrant narcissist behavior, from the creation of a false reality, to the nonsensical narcissistic rage. It examines how a knowledge of this motive force can be used to precipitate specific reactions in the narcissist, and how this can be used to manage social interactions.

The book goes on to examine specific scenarios in dealing with narcissists, and the dangers and risks inherent to operating within their sphere. From coping with narcissist in-laws, to raising narcissist children, to the risks which have claimed the lives of past narcissist victims, this book touches upon it all. It was created as a one-stop volume for the narcissist victim who wishes to once again live, and enjoy freedom. In that vein, it is unique within the field.

Based on extensive real world experience, the latest scientific information, and rigorous examinations of previous academic work in the field, How to Deal With Narcissists is the one guide you cannot be without when confronted with this noxious psychology. Given the rapidly rising prevalence of Narcissistic Personality Disorder, it will be the must have survival guide to navigating the social currents of our modern world.

This book contains some explanatory examples of narcissistic worldviews which political liberals will find disquieting and unpleasant to read. For that reason, it will prove most useful to those of a neutral or conservative political bent.